A Modest View

By Kelly Collet

We often hear we should be modest, but I find many people lack the discernment to know what Biblical modesty is. Why? Because we have become accustom to the worlds view of fashion, style, and liberal standards. Yahweh tells us to be set apart from the world. Why? I John 2:16, Because all that is in the world - the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life - is not of the Father but is of the world. Romans 12:1-2 I call upon you, therefore, brothers, through the compassion of YHWH, to present your bodies a living offering - set-apart, well-pleasing to YHWH - your reasonable worship. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you prove what is that good and well-pleasing and perfect desire of YHWH. The trends and styles of fashion magazines, movie stars, and commercials constantly bombard our minds with conflicting images of what is acceptable. Once these images have entered into our minds the battle is on. The image is forever imprinted in our brain and over time we can succumb to normalize indecent apparel and behavior. We begin to think it is our right to dress as we please and to seek men’s approval over Yahweh’s. We tell ourselves it is not my fault he/she is a weak person for thinking impure thoughts. Our desire to please ourselves makes us a stumbling block to others. Now we are guilty of loving ourselves more than we love our neighbor. Romans 14:21 It is good not to eat meat or drink wine, nor to do whatever by which your brother stumbles. Romans 15:1 But we who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves. Let each one of us please his neighbour for his good, to build him up. Philippians 2:4 look not to our own interest but the interests of others. Heb 10:24 says to be concerned for one another. In short, I am my brother’s keeper. This selfish attitude and destructive behavior is leading to the downfall of our society. How many of us can look at one of these magazines without comparing ourselves? How many can look at one of these magazines without comparing your spouse? How many of us can look at these images without lusting? How many of us lie to ourselves and say this won't affect me? When Adam and Eve covered only their private parts Yahweh stepped in and offered provisions to cover their bodies. In fact, He required them to cover their nakedness. By doing so He is sparing others the temptation of sin. Prov. 27:20 says man’s eyes are never satisfied. Leviticus 18 gives explicit instruction not to uncover someone’s nakedness. But what is "nakedness" according to scripture? Exo. 28:42 states it is from the loins (hips) to the thighs. John 21:7 says Peter put on his outer garment - for he was stripped. In some other versions of scripture this is rendered "naked". So when exposing your chest and thighs in biblical times you were considered naked. And Yahweh says He does not change, so that principle would still stand in today’s day and time. When I found this verse I started thinking of all the clothing that is inappropriate. Then I started comparing my wardrobe. I think I might need to go shopping and replace several outfits. The way we dress, speak, act, and with whom we choose to hang out shows what is in our hearts. This shows if we have a desire to be set apart and please Yahweh or blend in with the world. Our motives are exposed in our dress and mannerisms. I Samuel 16:7, But Yahweh said to Samuel, "Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have refused him, for not as man sees, for man looks at the eyes, but Yahweh looks at the heart." Prov. 4:23, Watch over your heart with all diligence, For out of it are the sources of life. As a mother, I began to worry about what kind of example I am setting for my girls. How have I let society influence my children? How have I shown them what pleases Yahweh? Will my example lead to their ruin or encourage them to live within the standards our heavenly Father has set for us? This study has opened my eyes and let Yahweh start showing me the necessary changes that are needed in my life if I want to be a positive role model. Sometimes this is quite painful because I have to be so honest with myself. We cannot make such changes otherwise. I want to encourage you, whether you are a parent or not, to take the time to teach our youth. We all influence someone’s life and so we can be a blessing or a curse. Prov.31:30, Loveliness is deceptive and prettiness is vain, A woman who fears Yahweh is to be praised.~~

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